Your children have grown. Hopefully, if you did a good job, or perhaps in-spite of you, they now have their own families and may need little from you in terms of physical gifts. Yet, you invariably ask them, "what is it that you want for the holidays", because you are a parent and you want to give.
You want to give them something to make them smile like they used to when they were small and needed you for everything. Or maybe you wish to provide something that would lighten their load now that they are adults. Perhaps you may also want to provide something that would protect them and to share your wisdom so that you will continue to be with them long after you are gone.
All of that is great, it truly is. For it is the season for family, and giving and magic...
Yet the gift that your adult children truly want from you is the enduring belief that life can be good, no matter how old you are. They want to see you handle aging with grace, beauty, whit and wisdom. In our youth obsessed culture, your adult children yearn to see and believe that every age truly has its beauty, because, after all they are right behind you.
So what does that mean in practical terms? What can you really give your adult children? You, dear parent, are the only one in the unique position to gift them a living example of evolving, dynamic and interdependent enjoyment of your own terrifying and breathtaking life.
You want to give them something to make them smile like they used to when they were small and needed you for everything. Or maybe you wish to provide something that would lighten their load now that they are adults. Perhaps you may also want to provide something that would protect them and to share your wisdom so that you will continue to be with them long after you are gone.
All of that is great, it truly is. For it is the season for family, and giving and magic...
Yet the gift that your adult children truly want from you is the enduring belief that life can be good, no matter how old you are. They want to see you handle aging with grace, beauty, whit and wisdom. In our youth obsessed culture, your adult children yearn to see and believe that every age truly has its beauty, because, after all they are right behind you.
So what does that mean in practical terms? What can you really give your adult children? You, dear parent, are the only one in the unique position to gift them a living example of evolving, dynamic and interdependent enjoyment of your own terrifying and breathtaking life.
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